Your body may be different, but intimacy isn’t dead
If you have multiple sclerosis (MS) and you’re experiencing problems in the bedroom, you’re not alone. About 80 percent of people with MS say they have sex issues. Don’t stress about it. The symptoms are likely only temporary, and there are things you can do to address this.
Re-learn your body. Your body probably feels different than it used to—and it may not respond in the same way to familiar stimuli. So spend some time exploring every part of your body. What feels good? What doesn’t? Share what you learn with your partner.
Plan ahead. Spontaneous is nice, but anticipation can be exciting.
Be creative. There’s no time like the present to try new things. If the missionary position—once your old faithful—is uncomfortable now, try a new position. Invest in sex toys. (You’ve seen the Trojan infomercial with the vibrator that blows your hair back, right?) Spend more time on oral sex.
Get lubed. Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of MS for women. Buy a water-based lubricant and apply it liberally. Men having trouble maintaining an erection should talk to their physician about erectile dysfunction medication.
Redefine sex. Focus on the experience. Satisfying sex doesn’t mean intercourse and orgasm only.
Keep your doctor in the loop. If you have bladder or bowel problems, spasms or medication side effects, your medical professional should have helpful suggestions.
